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Sushmita Sen.
Respect is more important than love.
Hmmm..A lil bit of soul searching and almost total belief surfaced.
For people to be and grow in love, its a prerequisite to respect one another. Sometimes its just not there or it starts to wane, for very many reasons, different at different times. Here are some that came to my mind.
1. When one loses respect for oneself, cant exactly see anyone else being right. When you respect someone, love is a part of it; when you love someone, respect is not always a part of it.
I can identify with this to some extent. Lack of self esteem and self love makes one insecure and very unwilling to trust people. One tries to put on a tough exterior, and is constantly on one's guard. For me, this phase is over, well, it almost is. I feel independent, capable and special. I know i dont have to treat myself badly, i'm not a rag. Even typing this out empowers me:)
2. Being let down, when one has too many expectations, and they're not fulfilled.
Faith and love remain sometimes, but respect, uh-no, not so much. A friend recently said to me, Dont have too many expectations from people, life will look a lot better. Didint seem like much at the time, but its definitey true. it definitely works and is totally possible!
3. One's ego! Ironically enough, I know what this feels like ( for a person with the ego ). There is this air of superiority and invincibility( if its not a real word, u're smart enough to know what i mean), sometimes you think you CANNOT be wrong! Even if you are, there's no way you will accept it.
This can be gotten rid of. Humility! Be humble. Takes time, but its worth the effort. Stop judging people for what you think are their short comings, dont give anyone labels you wouldnt like having yourself. We're all different, but we're still alike, in that we're humans. An open heart and a free mind, unbiased and unprejudiced will lead the way.
3 comments:
luverly post dearie! makes so much sense.. keep it coming!
When you respect someone, love is a part of it; when you love someone, respect is not always a part of it.
I would say it is exactly the other way round. A child is forced to respect his school teacher who he fears, but there is no love. On the other hand, When you love a person truly, respect comes automatically. Respect for his feelings, his opinions, his life. Basically love for a person makes you give him his freedom, which means you respect his freedom.
This can be gotten rid of. Humility! Be humble.
Is it so easy? Humility comes when you start accepting the reality as it is. When there is a mismatch between what you perceive and what the truth is, you will never become humble.
@ benkiman : it wouldnt hurt to try, would it!? :) ;)
But ya, i get wat u're saying. I guess our ideas or definitions of respect and humility differ slightly.
No worries. Cheers!:)
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